How to Prepare

May 21st we covered an important topic, which was Preparing for Marriage. This is always good to learn and understand more about so that we each can have successful marriages. I myself believe that marriage and knowing when and who to marry is on an individual basic with the man, woman and the Lord. It's hard to put a time frame on how long to courtship and then be engaged because each situation is extremely different. I did however enjoyed the three things we talked about, "know-Quo", that we should focus on in our preparing for marriage journey. The first one was Talking, this meaning that both sides are able to discuss who they are and the experiences they have had. If only one person is doing the talking then the couple isn't truly benefiting from getting to know each other. Both need to be able to be engaged not only listening but in communicating their ideas, thoughts, and ways that describe who they are. The second was Time. When I think of hear of Time I think quality time. Do we set time aside when we have no distractions and can really focus on each other and their needs and desires for that particular time. I also think it's important to experience time where it's a limited amount of time and how we both well use it. In class we did talk about being able to see or be with the other person during the different seasons which helps us get a better idea of who they are and how they handle different situations. The last one was togetherness. I take that to even include togetherness with each of the families so that you can see how they treat or interact with their family members. The best part is when we related it to the gospel using the three P's. Preside, Provide and Protect. Meaning the man is in charge of asking and planning the dates, second he provides for the date or in other words he pays. The third is that he protects. When on a date the guy is responsible for you and should only put you in wholesome atmosphere so that each feel safe and secure. Dating is an important time and it needs to involve the Lord. Take opportunities to date a variety of people and never settle. When you see a red flag, don't run but see if its something that consistently happens but if it's something you can work on.